V3 not understanding the real meaning:
I don't want you to think I'm arguing. Just discussing.
I understand that you're thinking that "argue" has a negative connotation but that is only one of its minor definitions. I'm not saying this to nit pick , I'm saying this because it's the correct word to use when you have different views on a subject. It's the word I will use when I'm talking with you and we disagree and I wouldn't want you to think I'm saying we're having a quarrel when I say that. The word discussion might or might not indicate a difference of opinion so it would not be the best choice to describe what you're doing in this instance. You were both arguing and that's a good thing. OK. I'm through with showing how anal I am but words are important to me. Carry on carrying on.
ar·gue
v. ar·gued,
ar·gu·ing,
ar·gues
v.tr.
1. To put forth reasons for or against; debate: "It is time to stop arguing tax-rate reductions and to enact them" (Paul Craig Roberts).
2. To attempt to prove by reasoning; maintain or contend: The speaker argued that more immigrants should be admitted to the country.
3. To give evidence of; indicate: "Similarities cannot always be used to argue descent" (Isaac Asimov).
4. To persuade or influence (another), as by presenting reasons: argued the clerk into lowering the price.
v.intr.
1. To put forth reasons for or against something: argued for dismissal of the case; argued against an immediate counterattack.
2. To engage in a quarrel; dispute.